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When you’re going through a divorce, your lawyer becomes one of the most important people in your life, at least temporarily. They’ll be by your side for some of the hardest conversations and most high-stakes decisions you’ve ever had to make. That’s why choosing the right lawyer is about more than credentials—It’s about connection.
Trust and Rapport Matter
You should feel a sense of trust from the very first consultation. That doesn’t mean your lawyer will sugarcoat things and a good lawyer shouldn’t just tell you what you want to hear. But you should feel that they’re listening to you, understanding your priorities, and committed to supporting you through the process.
Your lawyer should be someone you feel comfortable opening up to, especially about sensitive or emotional issues. You don’t need to become best friends, but you do need to feel safe and heard.
Responsiveness and Communication
Timely communication is crucial. Your lawyer should return your calls or emails within a reasonable time, ideally within 24 hours, or sooner in emergencies. If your attorney is unavailable, someone from the team should be able to provide updates or assistance when needed.
It’s also important to choose a lawyer who communicates in a style that works for you. Do you prefer detailed written updates? Or would you rather hop on a phone call to talk things through? The right attorney is one who can adapt to your preferences and explain things clearly.
Reputation in the Community
While rapport is personal, reputation is public and it matters. Ask friends or family if they’ve worked with the attorney, or request referrals from professionals you trust. An experienced divorce lawyer should also have strong working relationships with local judges, mediators, and opposing counsel. Those connections can make a difference in how efficiently your case moves forward.Look for someone who’s respected not just for their legal skills, but for their professionalism and integrity. Check their involvement in local bar associations or legal organizations.
Ultimately, your lawyer is your teammate. They should be your advocate, your guide, and your protector. If something feels off in that relationship, don’t ignore it. You deserve an advocate who is fully invested in helping you navigate your divorce with clarity and confidence.
